Some feelings explained
If you love some one because you think that he or she is really gorgeous ...
then it's not love..
it's - Infatuation . . .
If you love some one because you think that you shouldn't leave him because
others think that you shouldn't ... then it's not love..
it's - compromise . . .
If you love some one because you think that you cannot live with out his touch ....
then it's not love ..
it's - lust . . .
If you love some one because you have been kissed by him ...
then it's not love..
it's - inferiority complex . . .
If you love some one because you cannot leave him thinking that it would hurt his feelings ..
then it's not love ..
it's - charity . . .
If you love some one because you share every thing with him ...
then it's not love..
it's - friendship . . .
but if you feel the pain of the other person more than him even when he is stable
and you cry for him ..
that's - LOVE . . .
if you get attracted to other people but stay with him without any regrets..
that's - LOVE . . .
If you let him go knowing that he has to go but he doesn't want to..
that's - LOVE . . .
Sunday, January 24, 2010
30 REAL FEELINGS OF GIRLS
30 real feelings of girls
1. When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.
2. When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.
3. A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship' s over.)
4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.
5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt.
6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually not sure how to react to them.
7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?
8. If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.
9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.
10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).
11. Never tell a girl that she is useless in anyway.
12. Being too serious can turn a girl off.
13. When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.
14. A smile means a lot to a girl.
15. If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.
16. If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave.
17. But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.
18. Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.....
19. Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.
20. After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.
21. If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.
22. When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush
before actually looking at herself.
23. A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.
24. Girls love having fun!
25..... A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.
26. A girl's best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.
27. Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.
28. Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.
29. Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.
30. Girls want nothing more than to feel loved.
1. When a girl says she's sad, but she isn't crying, it means she's crying in her heart.
2. When she ignores you after you've done something wrong, it's best to give her some time to cool down before touching her heart with an apology.
3. A girl can't find anything to hate about the guy she loves (which is why it is so hard for her to 'get over him' after the relationship' s over.)
4. If a girl loves a guy, he will always be on her mind every minute of the day, even though she flirts with other guys.
5. When the guy she likes smiles and stares deep into her eyes, she will melt.
6. A girl likes to hear compliments, but usually not sure how to react to them.
7. When a particular guy flirts with a girl very often, a girl would start thinking the guy likes her. So if you treat a girl just as a friend, go easy on the smiles and stare ok?
8. If you don't like a girl who likes you, break it to her gently.
9. If a girl starts avoiding you after you reject her, leave her alone for a while. If you still treat her as a friend, talk to her.
10. Girls enjoy talking about what they feel. Music, poetry, drawings and writing are ways of expressing themselves (which explains why most girls like writing journals).
11. Never tell a girl that she is useless in anyway.
12. Being too serious can turn a girl off.
13. When the guy she likes calls her for the first time, the girl may act uninterested during the call. But as soon as the phone is back on the hook, she will whoop with joy and immediately start telephoning her friends to spread the news.
14. A smile means a lot to a girl.
15. If you like a girl, try making friends with her first. Let her get to know you.
16. If a girl says she can't go out with you because she has to study, leave.
17. But if she still calls you or expect a call from you, stay.
18. Don't try to guess a girl's feelings. Ask her.....
19. Hearing the words "I love you" is a great reassurance to a girl that she is beautiful.
20. After a girl falls in love with a guy, she'll wonder why she never noticed him before.
21. If you need tips on how to flirt with a girl, read romance stories.
22. When class pictures come out, a girl would first check who is standing next to her crush
before actually looking at herself.
23. A girl's ex-crush will always be in her memory, but the guy she loves now stays in her heart.
24. Girls love having fun!
25..... A simple 'Hi' can brighten a girl's day.
26. A girl's best friends usually know best what she is feeling and going through.
27. Girls hate it when a guy pays attention to them just to get close to their 'prettier' friend.
28. Love means devotion, caring and happiness to a girl, in that order.
29. Some girls care about looks, some care about brains, but ALL girls want a guy who will love and care for them.
30. Girls want nothing more than to feel loved.
Power of Silence
Have you ever experienced a moment in your life? When you just ran out of words and you go...
SILENCE???
Let me assist you in recalling...
The moment when you left your home for the first Time and you look Back at your parents who are worried that their Son/daughter are Leaving them yet happy that their child took the First step towards Independence.
The moment when the girl/boy you like most. Smiled back at you! You don't say anything. You just smile back.
The moment when you get better marks than you Expected... those "Numb" moments of ecstasy n surprise "is that
True?"...
The moment when you are parting With your old friend(s) and the Train has just started... and you are standing on
The door of the Wagon. Waving "bye-bye" with your heart beating Fast... he moment after the HR manager has just called You and told You, You are through! Congrats!"
... The moment when you sit alone in your room after Having told Everyone that you cleared that exam you prepared
For 6 months!! You can go on remembering your "special" moments!
I had always wondered why I never said anything To myself at those Moments. As if it was "understood"... happiness, Joy, pain. All Feelings just flowed ceaselessly in the 'years' That passed in those Flash moments!
They say. The best way to communicate is through "Silence". Love. Joy. Grief. Surprise. Anger. Hope. Expectations. Support. Non-cooperation. .
SILENCE???
Let me assist you in recalling...
The moment when you left your home for the first Time and you look Back at your parents who are worried that their Son/daughter are Leaving them yet happy that their child took the First step towards Independence.
The moment when the girl/boy you like most. Smiled back at you! You don't say anything. You just smile back.
The moment when you get better marks than you Expected... those "Numb" moments of ecstasy n surprise "is that
True?"...
The moment when you are parting With your old friend(s) and the Train has just started... and you are standing on
The door of the Wagon. Waving "bye-bye" with your heart beating Fast... he moment after the HR manager has just called You and told You, You are through! Congrats!"
... The moment when you sit alone in your room after Having told Everyone that you cleared that exam you prepared
For 6 months!! You can go on remembering your "special" moments!
I had always wondered why I never said anything To myself at those Moments. As if it was "understood"... happiness, Joy, pain. All Feelings just flowed ceaselessly in the 'years' That passed in those Flash moments!
They say. The best way to communicate is through "Silence". Love. Joy. Grief. Surprise. Anger. Hope. Expectations. Support. Non-cooperation. .
The Piller of Life
This is story of two Lovers, who finally got married, The girl was very sentimental and the guy was romantic, but on the walk of life, problems, clashes, profession came into their life. She yearn for romantic moments, time makes her husband different; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into their marriage has disheartened her about LOVE.
One day, she finally decided that "I wanted a divorce". "Why?" he asked.
"I am tired." she answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. Finally he asked "What can I do to change your mind?"
Looking into his eyes she said "Answer my question. If you can convince my heart, I will change my mind.
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He said: " I will give you your answer tomorrow...."
She woke up the morning, find him gone, and saw a piece of paper on my bed, which goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, the reasons are.....
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "
Her tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... And as she continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
She rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now she is very sure that no one will ever love her as much as he does, and she have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form...
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands.
One day, she finally decided that "I wanted a divorce". "Why?" he asked.
"I am tired." she answered.
He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought. Finally he asked "What can I do to change your mind?"
Looking into his eyes she said "Answer my question. If you can convince my heart, I will change my mind.
Let's say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?"
He said: " I will give you your answer tomorrow...."
She woke up the morning, find him gone, and saw a piece of paper on my bed, which goes....
My dear, "I would not pick that flower for you, the reasons are.....
"When you use the computer you always mess up the Software, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.
You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.
You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.
You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.
You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand...and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face...
Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do... I could not pick that flower yet, and die ... "
Her tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting... And as she continue on reading... "Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk...
She rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread....Now she is very sure that no one will ever love her as much as he does, and she have decided to leave the flower alone...
That's LIFE, and LOVE. When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness.
Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms. It has never been a model. It could be the dullest and most boring form...
Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands.
Triple Filter Test
One day an acquaintance came to meet Chanakya and said to him excitedly ," do you know what I just heard about your friend ?"
" Just wait a while", Chanakya replied." Before you tell me anything I would like you to go through a little test which I call the triple filter test".
" What’s that?" asked the acquaintance.
" I will tell you", Chanakya said." Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you are going to say. That is why I call it the Triple filter test. The first filter is ‘Truth.’ Are you sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No", the man said." Actually, I just heard about it."
"All right", said Chanakya." So you don’t really know if it is true or not. Now lets us try the second Filter, the filter of ‘Goodness’. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"
"No, on the contrary.."
"So", Chanakya continued," You wanted to tell me something bad about him but you are not certain it is true. You may still pass the test because there is one filter left; the filter of ‘Usefulness’. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really..."
" Well", Continued Chanakya," If you want to tell me what may not be true and is neither good nor useful, why tell it to me at all?"
He who repeats the ill he hears of another is the true slanderer
" Just wait a while", Chanakya replied." Before you tell me anything I would like you to go through a little test which I call the triple filter test".
" What’s that?" asked the acquaintance.
" I will tell you", Chanakya said." Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you are going to say. That is why I call it the Triple filter test. The first filter is ‘Truth.’ Are you sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"
"No", the man said." Actually, I just heard about it."
"All right", said Chanakya." So you don’t really know if it is true or not. Now lets us try the second Filter, the filter of ‘Goodness’. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"
"No, on the contrary.."
"So", Chanakya continued," You wanted to tell me something bad about him but you are not certain it is true. You may still pass the test because there is one filter left; the filter of ‘Usefulness’. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"
"No, not really..."
" Well", Continued Chanakya," If you want to tell me what may not be true and is neither good nor useful, why tell it to me at all?"
He who repeats the ill he hears of another is the true slanderer
A Nice Story About LOVE!
I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me.
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the
palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You
see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."
This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow
it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to
close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the
first cracks it finds
This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try
to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling
out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are
people you love, allow them to be free beings.
Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly
practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must
sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an
unconditional caring."
Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;
but by the moments that take our breath away.....
Life is beautiful, Live it!!!!
Once when we were sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the
palm of her hand with some water and held it before me, and said this: "You
see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."
This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow
it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to
close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the
first cracks it finds
This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try
to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling
out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .
For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are
people you love, allow them to be free beings.
Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.
It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly
practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must
sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an
unconditional caring."
Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;
but by the moments that take our breath away.....
Life is beautiful, Live it!!!!
Words of Wisdom
1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.
2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.
3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.
5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. If it was not earned or given, it is not yours.
6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth - whether it be people or plant.
7. Honor other people's thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.
8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.
9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.
10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.
11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.
12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life's lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.
13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.
14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.
15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self - all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.
17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others - especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.
18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.
19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.
20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.
2. Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path. Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.
3. Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others to make your path for you. It is your road, and yours alone. Others may walk it with you, but no one can walk it for you.
4. Treat the guests in your home with much consideration. Serve them the best food, give them the best bed and treat them with respect and honor.
5. Do not take what is not yours whether from a person, a community, the wilderness or from a culture. If it was not earned or given, it is not yours.
6. Respect all things that are placed upon this earth - whether it be people or plant.
7. Honor other people's thoughts, wishes and words. Never interrupt another or mock or rudely mimic them. Allow each person the right to personal expression.
8. Never speak of others in a bad way. The negative energy that you put out into the universe will multiply when it returns to you.
9. All persons make mistakes. And all mistakes can be forgiven.
10. Bad thoughts cause illness of the mind, body and spirit. Practice optimism.
11. Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART of us. They are part of your worldly family.
12. Children are the seeds of our future. Plant love in their hearts and water them with wisdom and life's lessons. When they are grown, give them space to grow.
13. Avoid hurting the hearts of others. The poison of your pain will return to you.
14. Be truthful at all times. Honesty is the test of ones will within this universe.
15. Keep yourself balanced. Your Mental self, Spiritual self, Emotional self, and Physical self - all need to be strong, pure and healthy. Work out the body to strengthen the mind. Grow rich in spirit to cure emotional ails.
16. Make conscious decisions as to who you will be and how you will react. Be responsible for your own actions.
17. Respect the privacy and personal space of others. Do not touch the personal property of others - especially sacred and religious objects. This is forbidden.
18. Be true to yourself first. You cannot nurture and help others if you cannot nurture and help yourself first.
19. Respect others religious beliefs. Do not force your belief on others.
20. Share your good fortune with others. Participate in charity.
Those 3 words.
There are many things that you can do to strengthen your relationships.
Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.
When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new
friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that
have sourerd.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every
relationship.
1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they
do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts
and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways -
that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your
relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another
person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults
you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to
all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and
sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells
partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important
you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in
the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication
when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm
wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you
normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will
not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging
the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door
to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express
your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit
their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults,
foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has
been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today
than he was yesterday.
7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many
expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends
is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true
friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can
count on me."
9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a
sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from
home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are
truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We
are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and
spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to
your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far
out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique
to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their
dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone
that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The
need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your
children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words:
"I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is
gone.
Often the most effective thing you can do involves saying just three words.
When spoken sincerely, these statements often have the power to develop new
friendships, deepen old ones and even bring healing to relationships that
have sourerd.
The following three-word phrases can be tools to help develop every
relationship.
1. Let me help
Good friends see a need and then try to fill it. When they see a hurt they
do what they can to heal it. Without being asked, they jump in and help out.
2. I understand you.
People become closer and enjoy each other more when the other person accepts
and understands them. Letting your spouse know - in so many little ways -
that you understand them, is one of the most powerful tools for healing your
relationship. And this can apply to any relationship.
3. I respect you
Respect is another way of showing love. Respect demonstrates that another
person is a true equal. If you talk to your children as if they were adults
you will strengthen the bonds and become closer friends. This applies to
all interpersonal relationships.
4. I miss you.
Perhaps more marriages could be saved and strengthened if couples simply and
sincerely said to each other "I miss you." This powerful affirmation tells
partners they are wanted, needed, desired and loved. Consider how important
you would feel, if you received an unexpected phone call from your spouse in
the middle of your workday, just to say "I miss you."
5. Maybe you're right.
This phrase is very effective in diffusing an argument. The implication
when you say "maybe you're right" is the humility of admitting, "maybe I'm
wrong". Let's face it. When you have an argument with someone, all you
normally do is solidify the other person's point of view. They, or you, will
not likely change their position and you run the risk of seriously damaging
the relationship between you. Saying "maybe you're right" can open the door
to explore the subject more. You may then have the opportunity to express
your view in a way that is understandable to the other person.
6. Please forgive me
Many broken relationships could be restored and healed if people would admit
their mistakes and ask for forgiveness. All of us are vulnerable to faults,
foibles and failures. A man should never be ashamed to own up that he has
been in the wrong, which is saying, in other words, that he is wiser today
than he was yesterday.
7. I thank you.
Gratitude is an exquisite form of courtesy. People who enjoy the
companionship of good, close friends are those who don't take daily
courtesies for granted. They are quick to thank their friends for their many
expressions of kindness. On the other hand, people whose circle of friends
is severely constricted often do not have the attitude of gratitude.
8. Count on me
A friend is one who walks in when others walk out. Loyalty is an essential
ingredient for true friendship. It is the emotional glue that bonds people.
Those that are rich in their relationships tend to be steady and true
friends. When troubles come, a good friend is there indicating "you can
count on me."
9. I'll be there
If you have ever had to call a friend in the middle of the night, to take a
sick child to hospital, or when your car has broken down some miles from
home, you will know how good it feels to hear the phrase "I'll be there."
Being there for another person is the greatest gift we can give. When we are
truly present for other people, important things happen to them and us. We
are renewed in love and friendship. We are restored emotionally and
spiritually. Being there is at the very core of civility.
10. Go for it
We are all unique individuals. Don't try to get your friends to conform to
your ideals. Support them in pursuing their interests, no matter how far
out they seem to you. God has given everyone dreams, dreams that are unique
to that person only. Support and encourage your friends to follow their
dreams. Tell them to "go for it."
B o n u s : 11. I love you
Perhaps the most important three words that you can say. Telling someone
that you truly love them satisfies a person's deepest emotional needs. The
need to belong, to feel appreciated and to be wanted. Your spouse, your
children, your friends and you, all need to hear those three little words:
"I love you." Love is a choice. You can love even when the feeling is
gone.
The Power of the Words
A group of frogs were travelling through the woods. By misfortune, two of them fell in a deep pit. All the other frogs gathered around the pit. When they saw how deep the pit was, they called out to the frogs that they were good as dead.
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they will never be able to succeed in their efforts. Finally , one of the frogs took heed of what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He soon dropped dead. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. But the frog kept trying, jumping even harder and finally made it out of the well.
When he got out, the other frogs said, “ did you not hear us?” the frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were actually encouraging him all the time
The two frogs ignored the comments and tried to jump out of the pit with all their might. The other frogs kept telling them to stop, that they will never be able to succeed in their efforts. Finally , one of the frogs took heed of what the other frogs were saying and gave up. He soon dropped dead. The other frog continued to jump as hard as he could. Once again, the crowd of frogs yelled at him to stop the pain and just die. But the frog kept trying, jumping even harder and finally made it out of the well.
When he got out, the other frogs said, “ did you not hear us?” the frog explained to them that he was deaf. He thought they were actually encouraging him all the time
A Lovely Lesson For Life
A student asks a teacher: What is love?
The teacher said: in order to answer your question, go to the paddy
field and choose the biggest paddy and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back
to pick.
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big paddy,
but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw
another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger one waiting
for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he start to
realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous one he saw, he
know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, this is love... you keep looking for a better
one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person
The student asked: What is marriage then?
The teacher said: In order to answer your question, go to the corn
field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back
to pick.
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to
repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he
has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfied, and came back to the
teacher.
The teacher told him, this time you bring back a corn.... you look for
one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best
one you get.... this is marriage
Be courteous to all , but intimate with few , and let those few be well
tried before you give them your confidence.
The teacher said: in order to answer your question, go to the paddy
field and choose the biggest paddy and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back
to pick.
The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big paddy,
but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later. Then he saw
another bigger one... but may be there is an even bigger one waiting
for him.
Later, when he finished more than half of the paddy field, he start to
realize that the paddy is not as big as the previous one he saw, he
know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted. So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.
The teacher told him, this is love... you keep looking for a better
one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person
The student asked: What is marriage then?
The teacher said: In order to answer your question, go to the corn
field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back
to pick.
The student went to the corn field, this time he is careful not to
repeat the previous mistake, when he reach the middle of the field, he
has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfied, and came back to the
teacher.
The teacher told him, this time you bring back a corn.... you look for
one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best
one you get.... this is marriage
Be courteous to all , but intimate with few , and let those few be well
tried before you give them your confidence.
Lesson of Life
There was a man who had four sons. He wanted his sons to learn not to judge things too quickly. So he sent them each on a quest, in turn, to go and look at a pear tree that was a great distance away.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
Moral:Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later.
The first son went in the winter, the second in the spring, the third in summer, and the youngest son in the fall. When they had all gone and come back, he called them together to describe what they had seen. The first son said that the tree was ugly, bent, and twisted. The second son said no it was covered with green buds and full of promise. The third son disagreed; he said it was laden with blossoms that smelled so sweet and looked so beautiful, it was the most graceful thing he had ever seen.The last son disagreed with all of them; he said it was ripe and drooping with fruit, full of life and fulfillment.
The man then explained to his sons that they were all right, because they had each seen but only one season in the tree's life. He told them that you cannot judge a tree, or a person, by only one season, and that the essence of who they are and the pleasure, joy, and love that come from that life can only be measured at the end, when all the seasons are up.If you give up when it's winter, you will miss the promise of your spring, the beauty of your summer, fulfillment of your fall.
Moral:Don't let the pain of one season destroy the joy of all the rest. Don't judge life by one difficult season. Persevere through the difficult patches and better times are sure to come some time or later.
THATS LIFE
God created the donkey and said to him. "You will be a donkey. You will work un-tiringly from sunrise to sunset carrying burdens on your back. You will eat grass, you will have no intelligence and you will live 50 years."
The donkey answered: "I will be a donkey, but to live 50years is much. Give me only 20years"
God granted his wish.
God created the dog and said to him: "You will guard the house of man. You will be his best Friend. You will eat the scraps that he gives you and you will live 30 years. You will be a dog. "
The dog answered: "Sir, to live 30years is too much,give me only15 years." God granted his wish.
God created the monkey and said to him: "You will be a monkey. You will swing from branch to branch doing tricks. You will be amusing and you will live 20 years."
The monkey answered: "To live 20 years is too much, give me only 10 years."
God granted his wish.
Finally God created man...and said to him: "You will be man, the only rational creature on the face of the earth. You will use your intelligence to become master over all the animals. You will dominate the world and you will live 20 years."
Man responded:
"Sir, I will be a man but to live only 20 years is very little, give me the 30years that the donkey refused, the 15years that the dog did not want and the 10years the monkey refused."
God granted man's wish...
And since then, man lives 20 years as a man, marries and spends 30 years like a donkey, working and carrying all the burdens on his back. Then when his children are grown, he lives 15 years like a dog taking care of the house and eating whatever is given to him, so that when he is old, he can retire and live 10years like a monkey, going from house to house and from one son or daughter to another doing tricks to amuse his grandchildren.
That's Life.
The donkey answered: "I will be a donkey, but to live 50years is much. Give me only 20years"
God granted his wish.
God created the dog and said to him: "You will guard the house of man. You will be his best Friend. You will eat the scraps that he gives you and you will live 30 years. You will be a dog. "
The dog answered: "Sir, to live 30years is too much,give me only15 years." God granted his wish.
God created the monkey and said to him: "You will be a monkey. You will swing from branch to branch doing tricks. You will be amusing and you will live 20 years."
The monkey answered: "To live 20 years is too much, give me only 10 years."
God granted his wish.
Finally God created man...and said to him: "You will be man, the only rational creature on the face of the earth. You will use your intelligence to become master over all the animals. You will dominate the world and you will live 20 years."
Man responded:
"Sir, I will be a man but to live only 20 years is very little, give me the 30years that the donkey refused, the 15years that the dog did not want and the 10years the monkey refused."
God granted man's wish...
And since then, man lives 20 years as a man, marries and spends 30 years like a donkey, working and carrying all the burdens on his back. Then when his children are grown, he lives 15 years like a dog taking care of the house and eating whatever is given to him, so that when he is old, he can retire and live 10years like a monkey, going from house to house and from one son or daughter to another doing tricks to amuse his grandchildren.
That's Life.
Be Safe - Microwaved Water
Micro waved water - a MUST read
A 26-year old decided to have a cup of coffee. He took a cup of water and put it in the microwave to heat it up (something that he had done numerous times before). I am not sure how long he set the timer for, but he told me he wanted to bring the water to a boil. When the timer shut the oven off, he removed the cup from the oven. As he looked into the cup, he noted that the water was not boiling, but instantly the water in the cup 'blew up' into his face. The cup remained intact until he threw it out of his hand but all the water had flown out into his face due to the build up of energy. His whole face is blistered and he has 1st and 2nd degree burns to his face, which may leave scarring. He also may have lost partial sight in his left eye. While at the hospital, the doctor who was attending to him stated that this is fairly common occurrence and water (alone) should never be heated in a microwave oven. If water is heated in this manner, something should be placed in the cup to diffuse the energy such as: a wooden stir stick, tea bag, etc. It is however a much safer choice to boil the water in a teakettle.
General Electric's (GE) response:
Thanks for contacting us. I will be happy to assist you. The e-mail that you received is correct. Microwaved water and other liquids do not always bubble when they reach the boiling point. They can actually get superheated and not bubble at all. The superheated liquid will bubble up out of the cup when it is moved or when something like a spoon or tea bag is put into it. To prevent this from happening and causing injury, do not heat any liquid for more than two minutes per cup. After heating, let the cup stand in the microwave for thirty seconds before moving it or adding anything into it.
If you pass this on ..... you could very well save someone from a lot of pain and suffering.
A 26-year old decided to have a cup of coffee. He took a cup of water and put it in the microwave to heat it up (something that he had done numerous times before). I am not sure how long he set the timer for, but he told me he wanted to bring the water to a boil. When the timer shut the oven off, he removed the cup from the oven. As he looked into the cup, he noted that the water was not boiling, but instantly the water in the cup 'blew up' into his face. The cup remained intact until he threw it out of his hand but all the water had flown out into his face due to the build up of energy. His whole face is blistered and he has 1st and 2nd degree burns to his face, which may leave scarring. He also may have lost partial sight in his left eye. While at the hospital, the doctor who was attending to him stated that this is fairly common occurrence and water (alone) should never be heated in a microwave oven. If water is heated in this manner, something should be placed in the cup to diffuse the energy such as: a wooden stir stick, tea bag, etc. It is however a much safer choice to boil the water in a teakettle.
General Electric's (GE) response:
Thanks for contacting us. I will be happy to assist you. The e-mail that you received is correct. Microwaved water and other liquids do not always bubble when they reach the boiling point. They can actually get superheated and not bubble at all. The superheated liquid will bubble up out of the cup when it is moved or when something like a spoon or tea bag is put into it. To prevent this from happening and causing injury, do not heat any liquid for more than two minutes per cup. After heating, let the cup stand in the microwave for thirty seconds before moving it or adding anything into it.
If you pass this on ..... you could very well save someone from a lot of pain and suffering.
Do you or your loved ones suffer from severe headaches?
The nose has a left and a right side we use both to inhale and exhale.
Actually they are different you would be able to feel the difference. The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon. During a headache try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe.
In about 5 minutes your headache will go.
If you feel tired just reverse close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while you will feel your mind is refreshed.
Right side belongs to 'hot' so it gets heated up easily left side belongs to 'cold'.
Most females breathe with their left noses so they get "cooled off" faster.
Most of the guys breathe with their right noses they get worked up.
Do you notice the moment we wake up which side breathes faster? Left or right? ?
If left is faster you will feel tired.
So close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing you will get refreshed quickly.
This can be taught to kids but it is more effective when practiced by adults.
My friend used to have bad headaches and was always visiting the doctor.
There was this period when he suffered headaches literally every night & unable to study.
He took pain killers but they did not work.
He decided to try out the breathing therapy here: closed his right nose and breathed through his left nose.
In less than a week his headaches were gone! He continued the exercise for one month.
This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that he has experienced.
So why not give it a try?
Actually they are different you would be able to feel the difference. The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon. During a headache try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe.
In about 5 minutes your headache will go.
If you feel tired just reverse close your left nose and breathe through your right nose. After a while you will feel your mind is refreshed.
Right side belongs to 'hot' so it gets heated up easily left side belongs to 'cold'.
Most females breathe with their left noses so they get "cooled off" faster.
Most of the guys breathe with their right noses they get worked up.
Do you notice the moment we wake up which side breathes faster? Left or right? ?
If left is faster you will feel tired.
So close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing you will get refreshed quickly.
This can be taught to kids but it is more effective when practiced by adults.
My friend used to have bad headaches and was always visiting the doctor.
There was this period when he suffered headaches literally every night & unable to study.
He took pain killers but they did not work.
He decided to try out the breathing therapy here: closed his right nose and breathed through his left nose.
In less than a week his headaches were gone! He continued the exercise for one month.
This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that he has experienced.
So why not give it a try?
Don't Quit
When things go wrong as they sometimes will,
When the road you’re trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low, and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have’to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit-
Rest, if you must, but don’t quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As everyone of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out;
Don’t give up though the pace seems slow—
You may succeed with another blow.
Success is failure turned inside out—
The silver tint of the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far;
So, stick to the fight when you’re hardest hit—
It’s when things seem worst that you mustn’t quit.
Saturday, January 9, 2010
ALL ABOUT SEX
Sex has been portrayed as one of the best mediums for achieving ultimate delight and pleasure. Hardly is it considered as an expression of spirituality.However, taking a deeper look at the sexual phenomenon and reconsidering the potentialities of this divine gift will go a long way in broadening and deepening our spiritual dimensions.
1) Sex has been created by God
Sex is not man-made., but it is inherited by each human being as a part of his/her instinct. It is a gift of nature. Thus, sexual intimacy is a reflection of the divine purpose.
Another notable fact is that the pleasure that comes while engaging in the sexual act suggests that sex was not created just for the purpose of procreation but also for the celebration of love and life itself.
The capacity of human love to create such ecstasy speaks a lot about the creator and that celebration and ecstasy is his way of life.
2) Sexual intimacy is also a divine expression of spirituality
The merging of two individuals as a part of sexual intimacy reflects the unity and merger of the creation with that of the creator. This expression of unity can be seen throughout the nature and in all living beings.
This unity connects all living beings with each other and connects them with the existence. There is a divine harmony and a deep inter-relationship. Sexual intimacy is therefore an expression of this underlying deep unity of creation..
3) Sexual intimacy gives rise to life
Life is among the most sacred and mysterious phenomenons. The connection of sex being a source of procreation gives it an immense sacredness. Therefore, all those who engage in the sexual act should enter into it and perform it with a sense of sacredness.
This can also be witnessed in the afterglow phase of sex when the physical unity is immediately followed by a deeper emotional and spiritual bond that forms among the participants. This is probably not replicated in any other way in our life. This bonding is also the essence of spirituality seen in nature.
4) Connection with the self is a pre-requisite for good sex
In order to maximize the emotional, spiritual and psychological effects of the bonding that arises during sexual intimacy, a deep connection with our self is required. Sex is not merely a biological act, but it can connect us to the divinity around and within us.
Individuals who are disconnected with their self and have a very negative view of themselves find it difficult to achieve deeper sexual bonding and affection with their partners.
In conclusion, we can see that sexual intimacy is among the many divine gifts given to us by the existence that can help us in a better understanding and appreciation of ourselves, as well as our relationship with God.
1) Sex has been created by God
Sex is not man-made., but it is inherited by each human being as a part of his/her instinct. It is a gift of nature. Thus, sexual intimacy is a reflection of the divine purpose.
Another notable fact is that the pleasure that comes while engaging in the sexual act suggests that sex was not created just for the purpose of procreation but also for the celebration of love and life itself.
The capacity of human love to create such ecstasy speaks a lot about the creator and that celebration and ecstasy is his way of life.
2) Sexual intimacy is also a divine expression of spirituality
The merging of two individuals as a part of sexual intimacy reflects the unity and merger of the creation with that of the creator. This expression of unity can be seen throughout the nature and in all living beings.
This unity connects all living beings with each other and connects them with the existence. There is a divine harmony and a deep inter-relationship. Sexual intimacy is therefore an expression of this underlying deep unity of creation..
3) Sexual intimacy gives rise to life
Life is among the most sacred and mysterious phenomenons. The connection of sex being a source of procreation gives it an immense sacredness. Therefore, all those who engage in the sexual act should enter into it and perform it with a sense of sacredness.
This can also be witnessed in the afterglow phase of sex when the physical unity is immediately followed by a deeper emotional and spiritual bond that forms among the participants. This is probably not replicated in any other way in our life. This bonding is also the essence of spirituality seen in nature.
4) Connection with the self is a pre-requisite for good sex
In order to maximize the emotional, spiritual and psychological effects of the bonding that arises during sexual intimacy, a deep connection with our self is required. Sex is not merely a biological act, but it can connect us to the divinity around and within us.
Individuals who are disconnected with their self and have a very negative view of themselves find it difficult to achieve deeper sexual bonding and affection with their partners.
In conclusion, we can see that sexual intimacy is among the many divine gifts given to us by the existence that can help us in a better understanding and appreciation of ourselves, as well as our relationship with God.
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